When I first heard the term dearmouring, I immediately felt it resonate with me. Without knowing exactly what it meant, it felt like a door was opened to something that was already known deep inside. Over the past few years, I have been working a lot with energy and bodywork, helping people to relax and let go - which is actually a form of dearmouring. When I finally found a place where I could be trained as a dearmouring practitioner, everything fell into place. I knew that this is what I wanted to do. Together with 50 others, we experienced 11 intense, transformative days in which we not only learned, but also shared profound experiences. It felt like coming home to a method that can truly help people heal.
What is dearmouring?
That is a question I keep asking myself, because dearmouring can encompass so much. And actually, there is no single clear answer to be found. Dearmouring is different for everyone. But maybe I can give you some examples. Do you know that feeling when you:
You see yourself on a video and hear your own voice? The feeling of shame and discomfort. Imagine watching that video together, but with loving attention for that pain. Without judgment. And that you can feel again how beautiful and sweet you sound. How beautiful you actually are. This process, together, intimately and with loving energy, is exactly how I would describe dearmouring. But also;
If you have suppressed certain desires and feelings for years, such as (self)love, connection, your power, intimacy, or simply pleasure. And then suddenly end up in a place where you are given the space to fully stand in your power, where all your desires and feelings are allowed to be there and where you can fully embrace them. Where you are allowed to cry, scream, be angry, be ashamed, and experience immense joy. This letting go of all those pent-up emotions, and being given the space to be completely yourself, without judgment or restraint—that is also dearmouring. And also;
If you find yourself always holding tension in your lower back and pelvic area, especially by tightening your psoas muscle, which pulls into your legs and buttocks, (lower) back, and pelvic floor. Imagine someone helping you release this tension with focused pressure, allowing your lower back, pelvis, and the entire area to feel relaxed again and finally letting go of any numbness you may have. And;
You feel like you are in your head, that there is a wall between you and your emotions, especially in your throat, heart, and belly area, as if you cannot fully feel what is going on inside you. You can no longer reach your emotions. Through dearmouring you are gently encouraged to feel behind that wall and reconnect with your body, so that you finally gain access to your feelings again and can express them without judgement. And;
During intimate moments you often feel rushed, experience blockages, pain or tension in your throat, chest, abdomen, lower back and pelvic area, as if you do not dare to show yourself completely. You experience little to no boundaries. Do not know what you want or like. Are mainly concerned with the other, pleasing. Feeling is difficult. Not knowing your wishes or daring to share desires. Perhaps you also experience little pleasure during sex, feel tension in your abdomen, lower back and pelvic floor. Through internal dearmouring, that tension can slowly disappear, allowing you to be present in such moments with more freedom, pleasure and connection.
There are many more forms and styles of dearmouring. Have I piqued your interest? Feel free to contact me to schedule a session.
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